by site administrator | May 10, 2021 | Uncategorised
“Gilmour has made mutual hearing a cornerstone of her practice. A healthy relationship requires that “each side feels heard, even if the other party doesn’t agree with what’s being said,” she explains. But how do you get there? “You...
by site administrator | Feb 16, 2018 | Relationship
“Go out on a DATE together?”, my clients say in almost perfect unison and in similar tones of poorly masked skepticism. “A DATE?? Together?? Just the two of us?? How?? Why??” Pay attention to what you, the reader, are thinking right now as you read the word...
by site administrator | Jan 18, 2018 | Solutions
As you go through life, brother, Whatever be your goal: Keep your eye upon the doughnut, And not upon the hole. (Anonymous, 1998) This little snippet pretty well sums up my counselling approach in a nutshell. Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) is based on the...
by site administrator | Nov 21, 2017 | Break Ups, Relationship
Preface: The following isn’t gender, age, race or sexual orientation-specific. I refer to the client as ‘they’ and to the boyfriend/girlfriend as the ‘partner’. The First Call I get the call from the client, I can tell right away they’re fighting to keep themselves...
by site administrator | May 29, 2016 | Decisions, Relationship
I often get clients coming in who are at a crossroads in terms of whether or not they should leave their relationship – these clients generally come in on their own initially so we aren’t having this conversation in front of their partner. This of course creates a...