“ After 30 years of marriage, there was no intimacy left in our marriage and we argued a lot of the time. Our only real communication was regarding the children.

We decided that either we go our separate ways or we go and see a marriage counsellor. We had had a bad experience with a counsellor in the past but we decided to see one anyway, for the sake of our children ( or so we thought until Dianne set us straight ! ) We were extremely fortunate to have met Dianne Gilmour. She was not only very professional and knowledgeable but also non judgemental and has a great sense of humour. We had an instant liking to her and she has , without a doubt, changed our marriage and our lives. Through her unique ability, she has given us our marriage and  love for each other back again. She has taught us to communicate better but above else, the skills to listen to each other. We absolutely couldn't have done it without her and for that not only do we thank her but so do our children. She has thoroughly convinced us that we were seeking help in our marriage , not for the sake of our children, but the fact that we wanted to be with each other in the first place.

We would not hesitate, in the least, to recommend her and her genuine caring ways.

- S & A, North Vancouver

At the Gilmour Group Counselling and Consulting we provide NO-NONSENSE strategies and tools for resolving problems in relationships.   So many of us have been told over and over that good communication is the key to successful relationships…of course that makes sense.   But so many of us are often so deeply entrenched in unhelpful communication styles we are unable to recognize that what once worked for us is no longer effective.  There are a number of crucial steps to effective communication that are imperative for it to occur with any lasting positive effects and at the Gilmour Group we are here to walk you through them, one by one, clearly explaining and demonstrating their usefulness.  Our work is research-based, de-mystifying what can often become a “fuzzy and blurry” process for those seeking pragmatic tools for tangible results.  We consistently guide this process with honesty, humour, respect and hope.

The focus of our practice is primarily in three areas:

1. Marriage or Couples Counseling
2. Parent/Teen Conflict
3. Individuals struggling with relationship issues

Marriage or couples counselling often addresses infidelity, you may refer to it as cheating, adultery, an affair or unfaithfulness.  It is our experience that many couples can move through it though it requires a great deal of effort from both parties.  We provide opportunities to explore the grief, loss, betrayal, guilt and the myriad of other evoked emotions.  We have many years of experience working with parents and teens, mediating conflict in a manner respectful of and well-received by the families.  Our individual counselling often addresses issues around depression, anxiety and self-esteem.  

We are trained and experienced therapists dedicated to contributing to the well being of our clients. 

“It felt like my marriage was on the rocks and my wife refused to go to counselling with me.  I decided to see Dianne so I could try to figure out where to go from that point.  She helped me see that I wasn’t a helpless victim and that I had been contributing to the breakdown of my relationship with my wife more than I had taken responsibility for.  Dianne approached things very strategically, there was no mystery to what we were doing.  Long story short, I changed some of my behaviours that ultimately made a huge difference in how I communicated with my wife.  We are both seeing Dianne now and there is a great deal of hope back in our marriage. ”.

- L, Vancouver