Specializing in Marriage, Couples and Relationship Counselling 

“THE PROBLEM WITH COMMUNICATION IS THE ILLUSION THAT IT HAS ACTUALLY OCCURRED”                                                                                                      - George Bernard Shaw

Most couples seek counseling as a last-ditch attempt to save their relationship.  Unhelpful and often harmful communication patterns have become so deeply entrenched they consume the relationship, leaving no room for happy memories together or remembering why they are still together at all.  Many traditional approaches to couples, marriage and relationship counselling simply take too long, they explore familial patterns often dating back to grandparents and great-grandparents and though probably very interesting, this “archaeological dig” does little to address the urgency of the current crisis or conflict.  In fact, it can often result in difficulty accepting personal accountability for the relationship (“it’s not my fault, I am my mother’s child”) or in labeling (“you are exactly like your father”).  At The Gilmour Group we are less interested in the history of the problem (our clients have already spent enough time on that prior to coming in to see us) but rather our focus is primarily on pragmatic steps to walk our clients out of it.  Our NO-NONSENSE tools and strategies are research-based and are not designed to be band-aids for the current crisis but can serve to provide the skills with which to bring about lasting change in relationships.  We work with our clients in creating personally relevant strategies, clearly explaining and describing their purpose throughout the process, de-mystifying what can easily become a “fuzzy and blurry” process. 

At The Gilmour Group we believe that you have to “DO” rather than “THINK” your way out of conflict..  We are here to facilitate the “doing”, guiding the process with honesty, respect, humour and hope. 

The underlying principles of our work are applicable to couples, marriage, relationship, family and individual counselling.